Life is About the Red or the Blue Pill-

Choosing how we see, feel & live in this messy,

magical human experience.

 

Some days it feels like we’re living in a script.

You’ve probably asked yourself: Am I on the right path? Is this my destiny?

What’s meant for me? Have I made the right choices?

These are the questions that go through our minds when we're suffering or we

have difficult decisions to make. 

In those moments, it can feel like we’re waiting for something to be revealed-

a divine roadmap, a clear sign, a hand guiding us forward.

 

& yet, woven into that desire for fate & certainty is something else:

Free will. Choice.

The option of taking either the red pill or the blue pill.

 

Most of us know the reference in the Matrix, where Neo must decide whether to swallow the blue pill & return to his comfortable illusion, or the red pill & see reality for what it truly is, no matter how painful or unpredictable.

& maybe that’s what life is: a constant decision to either wake up or fall back asleep. To either believe we’re powerless passengers in a train already bound for its destination or to realise that even if the tracks are laid, we can still choose how to ride them.

There’s some comfort in believing in fate. It’s soft, soothing. “What will be, will be,” we tell ourselves. Destiny has a plan. The universe is in control & sometimes that path can still lead somewhere beautiful.

But free will is the spark that ignites change. It’s what gets you out of bed when your heart is heavy. It’s what makes you question everything you were told to believe. It’s what makes you take the wheel & choose to see things differently-if you want to.

 

Because while life inevitably brings grief, failure, pain & challenges, how we walk through those dark corridors is where the real power lies. We can’t stop the storms, but we can learn to embrace the rain. & sometimes, it’s the storms that remind us just how much light we hold.

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So, let's reframe things.

Reframing is a word thrown around in self-help books but in practice, it’s pure alchemy. It’s turning your breakdown into your breakthrough. It’s finding meaning in the mess. It's seeing the light in the dark. 

Reframing doesn’t mean pretending everything is okay. It means honouring what is & choosing to shift your relationship to it.

Rather than saying “This is happening to me,” turn it around & say  “This might be happening for me.” Instead of, “I failed,” “I learned something important.” Or “I’m lost” becomes “This is my time to rest.” 

​It’s not about toxic positivity or spiritual bypassing, gaslighting. It’s about meeting yourself in the moment & saying, Ok. I can’t change what happened. But I can choose what I do with it.

 

This is where Human Design becomes a powerful tool.

Human Design doesn’t hand you answers-it holds up a mirror. It shows you the patterns that are truly yours & the ones you’ve absorbed from a world that doesn’t know who you are. It gives you permission to stop trying to be someone else. To live in alignment with how your energy is meant to move, how your body is meant to decide, what is your real truth.

Because so often, our pain comes from trying to live by a blueprint that isn’t ours. By how our parents have lived. By what society expects from us. When we don’t understand ourselves, we search for external validation. We look to others to tell us who we are, what to do, what matters. But Human Design says: you already know. You always did.

 

It’s the red pill. It’s the willingness to see yourself clearly, even if that truth means dismantling the life you built based on who you thought you had to be-not an easy task. 

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But this human experience isn’t supposed to be easy. The hard truth is that being human is brutal sometimes.

 

We lose people. We doubt ourselves. We feel shame, regret, fear. We question our worth. We compare & compete & collapse under invisible expectations.

 

But here’s the beautiful part: we also rise. We create. We connect. We learn how to soothe ourselves. We find joy again. We heal. We wake up. We feel. 

You’re not broken because you’ve been through hard things. You’re not lost because you’re still figuring it out. You’re living. That’s what this is. A full-spectrum, gut-wrenching, soul-stirring experience.

& every moment-even this one-is a chance to choose.

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So what does the red pill really mean?

 

That you stop waiting to be saved & start listening to your own knowing. That you take responsibility for your part, without blaming yourself for everything. That you realise you can’t control other people or life’s curveballs but you can decide how you meet them. That you honour your sensitivity as strength, your breakdowns as portals, your weirdness as wisdom. That you choose to be awake, not just to the pain, but to the magic too.

 

The blue pill might feel easier. But it numbs the truth. & the truth, while painful, will always be right.

 

The question isn’t whether we have fate or free will. It’s how we move between the two. Fate might lay the ground beneath your feet. But free will chooses how you walk it. Every moment is a crossroads. The blue pill says: Stay asleep, stay small, stay safe. The red pill says: Wake up! Grow! Feel it all because that’s what you came here for!

 

So make your choice.

Not once. But every day.

Because the real magic? It isn’t in knowing what the future holds. It’s in choosing to live as the most you version of You, even when the world tells you not to.

& that’s where the path begins to unfold. Not as something handed to you, but as something you help co-create, one decision, one reframed thought, one act of self-trust at a time.

 

You are not powerless. You are the pattern breaker. The truth seeker. The one who sees differently.

 

Take the red pill.

 

& see how deep the rabbit hole of You goes.